Jealousy and the Theory of Mind Connection
In neurotypical children, that is, children who have no underlying neurological disorder such as autism, self is seen as a separate entity. There is an understanding after the preschool years, that others have thoughts and feelings that do not necessarily match your own. Some empathy can take place, because there is an understanding of feelings that others have, even if that understanding is rudimentary.
In autism, there is a marked difficulty in identifying and recognizing others’ feelings. It can be hard for the child with autism to put himself in someone else’s shoes, because he doesn’t even realize that person has shoes that are different than his own. This is why many children with autism overreact to imagined slights. They aren’t being difficult. They really believe when you accidentally hit them with your elbow that you meant to do it.
Wow, what an extraordinary way for Owen to work through and express his feelings. I've just started reading 'The Way I See It', by Temple Grandin, a 60-year-old academic who is autistic and who has spent her lifetime coming to understand what she felt as a child - and still does - and explaining it to others. If you haven't already read it, I'll let you know if I find it helpful, and if it might help you and Owen talk about this stuff.
ReplyDeleteRead the Temple Grandin book today. She's a little didactic at times, and her views about 'good' upbringing and behaviour reflect her age, but even those ideas are interesting given that they are expressed from the perspective of someone with autism. In general, it's a fabulous read. Incredibly illuminating with regard to the many ways that people with autism - from high-functioning to non-verbal - think, feel, respond and learn. I borrowed the book I've read from a friend. I'm sure she'd be happy to lend it on if you'd like to see it.
ReplyDeleteI would love to read it but may invest in a copy as it takes me ages to read books. I have heard about Temple many times. She was recently mentioned in a book about a Dad taking is autistic son across the Mongolian desert. He said Temple referred to people with autism as a bring between, music, science or animals and neurotipicals people. I liked this observation! We are a bridge for the meer neurotypicals.
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